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Falling in Love

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A simple definition could describe love as a force. It is a connection between two people, so strong that it seems unbreakable, and if it were ever severed, a part of both people would die with it. Of course, love is so much more than this, but essentially, it seems to be one of the strongest, closest bonds that anyone could ever share with another.
This bond takes time to form. I believe that there is a space of transition somewhere between being 'more than friends' and being 'soul mates'. To differentiate between these two stages, I would define 'more than friends' as a romantic relationship, generally in the very early stages, where there is little thought of the long-term. The thought of 'love' at this point may not be mutually considered seriously. In contrast to this, I think of the 'soul mate' stage as being that of a matured relationship, where there is no doubt that the relationship will endure indefinetly. Here, 'true love' seems to be the most succinct way to describe the relationship.
In the space between 'non-love' and 'true love', is the transitional period commonly known as 'falling in love'. This could cover any state from realising that you care deeply about someone, to saying 'I love you', to knowing that you never want to be without them. Saying 'I love you' for the first time may not always mean 'I want to spend the rest of my life with you only,' but it can mean 'I have these feelings about you that I don't know how to put into words, feelings so strong that I can't keep them inside any longer.'
It is a widely accepted belief that if you love someone, it is difficult to tell them this for the first time. Saying 'I love you' is like giving someone your heart, the most precious and vulnerable part of yourself, without knowing for certain that they will treasure it, but trusting that they will. I believe that falling in love is about realising your fears, insecurities and doubts, sharing them, and allowing yourself to let them go.
If you can trust someone enough to let them see your true self, your whole self, then what else is this but love?
Maybe the person you love will break your heart and shatter your soul, but I believe that it's not truly love unless you can drop all defences and allow yourself to be seen at your most vulnerable. After all, they don't call it 'falling' in love for nothing. You have to fall before you can be caught.
something i've been thinking about for awhile now.
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Smdbz-girl's avatar
Hmmmm gee I wonder what got you thinking about this? A very interesting expansion on our talk the other day. Me like, good job.